
I don't know what it was that led me to check my Recent Activity tonight. It's what I used to call my 'under the radar' Flickr account - reserved for en masse shoots of other families, of personal gatherings. Birthday parties, family reunions. Chocolate on the faces of cousins, sandy toes at the beach, intimate moments post-christening.
These are not my children to share. Best keep these in a place that's not attached to the blog. Best keep these in a place that's a quiet needle in the biggest haystack anyone's ever known.
'Private' is an extra step that prevents internet-averse relatives and friends from finding the photos they want to see. And so I went everything but, restricting my photos from searches, refusing to use any manner of descriptive text, tags or any other mode of sharing.
No one untoward will ever find my images in the hugeness of the internet - especially not when there are so many dolts out there tagging their kids' photos with 'bathtime fun'. I do nothing to promote them, and only pass on the URL to people I've sat next to at dinner. Simple as that, right?
I've written elsewhere about my contempt for people who spread fear, uncertainty and doubt about sharing photos on the internet. You know, those who shriek smugly about how we've all got it coming to us, damn short of fire and brimstone, for being so dumb as to share images online. As if Flickr amounts to putting our children out on the front stoop wearing sandwich boards that say FREE FOR THE TAKING.
To say that sharing photos on the internet is a wholly bad thing is akin to saying that kissing is nothing more than a gateway for disease. It's a tragic overstatement that would have us all stifle joy and creativity and community.
And then tonight. Two recently-added Contacts, both of whom belong to several red-flag-raising groups - one of which was had a discussion topic called "We R Not Monsters!!!" which justified the stealing of child photography for avatars on sites such as Orkut.
How the hell did they find me? How is that possible?
Needless to say, I've now gone private on this account. Flickr allows you to share a 'guest pass' on private photos to people who are not Flickr members - a URL which, when emailed directly, allows access but not random browsing. This is news to me, and I'm grateful for it.
I do not believe in internet-birthed bogeymen. My squeamishness is simply because I want to share on my own terms. But how realistic it is to promise those terms when there are people out there who have no respect for image ownership nor any regard for the justified protectiveness of parents?
So tell me this, and forgive me for bringing up a potentially unsolvable conundrum. If this post generates a bunch of oh god that's it I'm done the sky is falling comments I will pelt you with rubber chickens. I want to hear measured thought and actions. I want to know how you feel, how you tackle this.
How do you share responsibly on the internet - especially photos of people and children who are not your own? How do you balance the need for self-promotion (for those of you who are professional) and creative sharing with the need to protect the moments you've captured?